Relationship Safety & Coercive Control Checklist

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A Guide for Women Dating or Entering a Relationship

Healthy love should feel safe, respectful, calm, and supportive — not confusing, fearful, controlling, or emotionally exhausting.

This checklist is designed to help identify patterns of:

  • coercive control

  • emotional abuse

  • manipulation

  • narcissistic behaviour

  • intimidation

  • unhealthy attachment

  • potential domestic/family violence risk

  • patterns

  • escalation

  • frequency

  • intensity

  • how safe you feel emotionally and physically

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Understanding Abuse & Recognising Warning Signs

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Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Person

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